3 Questions That Help Me Sleep Better and Lead Stronger

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We’ve all had those nights — the kind where your mind won’t shut off. You lay in bed thinking about what went right, what went wrong, what you wish you would’ve said, and that random thing from 2008 that somehow popped back into your brain.

That was me last week. I had one of those days and didn’t want to carry the weight of it into the next one. So I tried something simple: I asked myself three questions before bed. And to my surprise, they helped me rest better and reset stronger.

Here they are — nothing magic, just incredibly helpful:

1. **What did I LOVE about today?**

This question instantly shifts your mindset toward gratitude. Even on tough days, there’s usually a moment or two that made you smile, gave you energy, or reminded you that you’re doing something meaningful. Recalling those moments at the end of the day is like ending your day with a “thank you.”

2. **What did I LEARN today?**

Every day brings something to learn — from the wins and the mistakes. One night, I realized I had said something that wasn’t rude, but wasn’t thoughtful either. That reflection helped me create a “micro pause” practice: taking a moment before speaking so I can choose words more intentionally, especially with people I care about most.

3. **What am I going to LEAVE in today?**

Not everything deserves to come with you into tomorrow. Sometimes a conversation stirs up old fears, bitterness, or insecurity — and it’s okay to leave those things behind. Asking this question gives you permission to let go and move forward lighter.

These three questions have become part of my nightly rhythm. They’ve helped me process, learn, grow, and rest — and I think they might do the same for you.

If you try them, I’d love to hear what you discover. Comment below or message me — maybe we can develop even better questions together.

And, if you're looking to get serious about growing in your leadership or life, I’d love to help. Book a free 30-minute coaching session with me at gabekolstad.com. It’s simple, no pressure, and could be the start of your next breakthrough.

Keep growing!

— Gabe

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3 Questions That Help Me Sleep Better and Lead Stronger

1. What did I LOVE about today?

2. What did I LEARN today?